There is a saying that goes “You get what you give”.  I’m going to take it to another level and put on the table “You get what you accept.  And then you get more of the same”.

{!firstname_fix}, how many times have you heard someone say they attract the same kind of person, whether in a personal relationship or at work?  “I don’t know what’s wrong but I seem to attract all the whiners”, “Why am I always the one who gets the difficult staff?  It doesn’t matter where I work it always seems to happen”  or “I seem to attract friends or partners who are needy.  What’s with that?”

We get what we accept and because we accept, we get more of the same. 

So {!firstname_fix}, how do you deal with that?  Stop accepting. Start challenging.  Respecfully.

Don’t “pick and choose fights” eliminate the need for them. If you let things pass without handling them, acknowledging them or dealing with them in some manner you’d better believe you’ll get more of the same.  As in the first saying “You get what you give” you can give respect but it doesn’t mean you’ll get it.  You can give openness and acknowledgment and even show appreciation  but it doesn’t mean you’ll get it back.  If you give respect and get insult and leave it be “because it’s not worth the energy” just know you’ll be using up at least 10 times the energy dealing with what you’ll get next.

What will you no longer accept?  What do you want to attract?  Answering those two questions will get you started.

Best!

Donna Karlin

Founder and Principal

A Better Perspective

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