When the unpredictable happens and it’s not easy to always figure things out ahead of time, what do you do?  Is it ever possible to have all the knowledge at your fingertips to have success in everything you do or plan your life to a ‘T’ so that everything turns out exactly the way you want it to?  Of course not! 

It’s called life.  Life happens when you least expect it.  You can either fight it or go with the flow and see where it takes you.  A few newsletters ago I asked the question “What is so perfect about this when it clearly isn’t?”  Will you always have the answer to that question?  No.  However sometimes just asking it is enough to give you a reality check that says “You won’t always have control over everything that unfolds.”  Period.  Finished.  That’s a fact!

There will always be times when we are blindsided and hit with the unfathomable, or unexpected.  No matter how connected we are with people, through the internet or how global our work is, things will always happen that we won’t expect, from our biggest challenges to most unimaginable surprises.

Did I mention it’s called life?

Get With The Plan…Or In This Instance, No Plan

Some people need to have control….control over having their perfect job, perfect number of kids, the exact money they’ll need to have the perfect lifestyle and the perfect set of friends.

They don’t take into account life, crises, surprises, or unexpected people who come into our lives.  It’s all a part of life’s journey which never goes from point A to B.  Life isn’t black and white.  It’s a myriad of colour, textures, sounds and shapes coming together in various permutations and combinations.  Life happens because it happens not because we can pre-design what it will look like.  It just is.  What if you relinquished the need for control for how life happens?  How freeing would that be?  Can you take that leap?

Reflection:

Just as not knowing the reason why things happen, we need to look at the premise that just because we don’t know all there is to know, doesn’t mean it isn’t.   Like the question “If a tree falls in a forest and no one is around to hear it, does it make a sound?”  Of course it does!  It just makes a sound that we’re not around to hear.

Mind Shift:

We can try to design the perfect life, go after the perfect job, create the perfect lifestyle and have the perfect mate or…we can look at our job as perfect for us right now, our lifestyle as perfect for what we can do right now and our mate as someone we chose to be with for better or for worse, not until he or she leaves the cap off the toothpaste tube.  Of course there are extremes and choices to be made in certain circumstances.  It’s how we think of what’s happening in our lives more than how we expect things to happen in our lives that will help us create a life we love.  It’s what will give us guidance and direction and to see this grass as green as it gets, at least for now.

So What Can You Do?

Ask yourself “What is so perfect about this when it really isn’t?”  You might just come up with an answer that works.  The shift will be from complaining and blaming through life to learning and growing into life.

Web Stuff

Every week I make it a point to read at least 2 new blogs so I see what people are writing about.  Some I comment on and some I link to as they are amazing resources and fountains of insight and information.

However as there are more than 70 million blogs published to date that we know of, I want to make sure what I’m reading is what I want to read.  www.technorati.com is a great resource to find blogs by topic, country, popularity and you can rate them as favourites as well.  Blogs are here to stay and a great way to dialogue with like minded people.

Last But Not Least: 

Please feel free to share your comments, insights and perhaps a subject or two you’d like to open for discussion and we’ll look at it for a future newsletter or blog post. Our blog can be found at http://betterperspective.blogspot.com     

To sign up for our Self-Coaching program It’s All About You…and Others, visit here:  http://www.itsallaboutyouandothers.com/intro.htm      

*****For Newsletter Subscribers Only*****    Unadvertised program launches and coaching package discounts are announced first to subscribers of Perspective in Brief.  In order to take advantage of these special prices and packages, click here to subscribe.   With deepest respect,
 
Donna Karlin
Founder and Principal
A Better Perspective
http://www.abetterperspective.com
ISSN 1913-6307

Potentialists   

My son teases me incessantly about creating words.  When I can’t find a word that says what I want, I often make one up.  Leaders are alchemists of vision and potential — i.e. ‘potentialists’. There are leaders at every level in an organization.  They are also chess players and understand that all the pieces, or their people, move differently. Each individual leaves an impact all their own.   

Have you looked at the roles of each person in your organization, not only from the perspective of what job they were hired for, but from the perspective of their personality styles, energy levels and speed within which they can contextualize things? One of the keys of creating a strong, cohesive team is to recognize individual talents and strengths, to task to them and to harness individual uniqueness into a common focus to get results.   

Reflection: 

Are you where you need to be to achieve your level of excellence and realize your potential?  If not, have you had a conversation with the powers that be to increase your learning and growing curve? And if you’re in a position of leadership, have you done the same with your staff?  It’s up to you to ask for that conversation no matter which side of the desk you sit on.   

What if you could transform your organization by the very next act you undertake?  What might that act be?  Are you where you need to be to make that transformation?    

Everything we do has a ripple effect, an impact on others and in turn back on us.  What if one or more of those acts were transformational beyond our wildest dreams?   

What We Can Do: 

Coaches are potentialists. We bring out the best in our clients based on their talents and strengths.  We listen.  We partner.  We support, catalyze and applaud. We also challenge, do not judge and accept.   

Awesome isn’t it?   

And through all that we help grow people into their highest potential.  Those who act as leaders do much of the same.  Perhaps in a different way and not always intentionally, but they do whether they’re the lowest person on the totem pole or the highest.  That kind of leader is not defined by level of responsibility; that kind of leader is defined by attitude, impact and presence.  Are you that kind of leader?   

So What Are You Going To Do?   

Who haven’t you paid attention to recently who you could grow in some capacity?  It doesn’t necessarily have to be someone at work.  It can be one of your kids, a relative, friend, anyone in your life who might be wandering through life instead of defining it.  Paying attention alone gives a whole new level of energy to those around you.  It’s valuing them as human beings.  That is the first step in helping others realize their potential and that’s recognizing them and their individual and personal impact.   

OK So I’m a Closet Geek (and am proud of it!)   

I am always looking for technology to enhance and facilitate my work, not replace what I do.  Using Google Docs goes a long way in helping me work with international colleagues, collaborate and create material, documents, presentations and whatever it is we’re playing with at the time.  I invite them in as collaborators and we both write, edit and create, having a common parking spot that’s web based so we can go to it whenever we want, wherever we are.   

Last But Not Least:     

Please feel free to share your comments, insights and perhaps a subject or two you’d like to open for discussion and we’ll look at it for a future newsletter or blog post. Our blog can be found at http://betterperspective.blogspot.com     

To sign up for our Self-Coaching program It’s All About You…and Others, visit here:  http://www.itsallaboutyouandothers.com/intro.htm   

*****For Newsletter Subscribers Only*****   

Unadvertised program launches and coaching package discounts are announced first to subscribers of Perspective in Brief.  In order to take advantage of these special prices and packages, click here to subscribe.   

With deepest respect,
 
Donna Karlin
Founder and Principal
A Better Perspective
http://www.abetterperspective.com
ISSN 1913-6307